A Tale of Two Dates; Our Origin Story

 

I have two female friends, let's call them Anne and Jessica. One day I was having coffee with Anne and I asked what she had been up to. She commented that she had recently gone on a date with someone I knew -- Roger.

 

This was date #1 -- Anne went out with Roger.

 

I laughed because I knew Roger quite well -- he was a friend of mine and a friend of Jessica's -- and we ran in the same social circle. Another reason I laughed is because I knew that at that moment, Jessica was on a date with Roger!

 

This was date #2 -- Jessica went out with Roger.

 

Just to make conversation, I asked Anne how her date with Roger was and she said it was disappointing and that she was not impressed (at all); she very specifically stated that his behavior wasn't acceptable. This really surprised me but I simply filed it away as interesting but not significant.

 

About a week later, I happened to run into my friend Jessica and during our conversation, her date with Roger came up and her comments mirrored Anne's quite closely. And, like Anne, she told me that she was not going to see Roger again. The surprising thing here was that his behavior, again, wasn't acceptable. Now given that myself, Jessica and Roger ran in the same social circle, that was very disappointing. I can get that maybe you choose to not act well when you are with someone that you don't share a connection with but when you do? That's really bad.

 

Given that I'm a software engineer, I thought to myself "I wish there were ratings and reviews for men so women didn't have this kind of experience and I had a 💡 moment". So I started coding the very next day!